Comments on: “Sweetie” http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/ Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:07:59 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Overwhelmed! http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/#comment-827 Overwhelmed! Thu, 12 Oct 2006 20:22:43 +0000 http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/#comment-827 What a thought provoking post. I must admit, before we were matched with Snuggle Bug's birthmother, Giselle, I never really thought about this topic (shame on me). I'd been on my parents insurance through my college years and then I got insurance with my first "real" job and have been working and insured ever since. When we were matched with Snuggle Bug, we were informed that Giselle was already qualified for WIC. We learned a bit about the process through her but still didn't know all the ins and outs that she had to go through or what type of treatment she was subjected to. Of course, she never complained to us. We made a point to offer grocery gift cards so that she could have more than just the "necessities" during her pregnancy. We met her OB more than once and from what I could see he was polite and friendly. I'm saddened to hear that women on WIC are often treated with such condescending and disdainful attitudes. There's no reason for that behavior! And someday we want to be foster parents as well, so we may be experiencing this too. I guess I'd better be aware of these attitudes now. What a thought provoking post. I must admit, before we were matched with Snuggle Bug’s birthmother, Giselle, I never really thought about this topic (shame on me). I’d been on my parents insurance through my college years and then I got insurance with my first “real” job and have been working and insured ever since.

When we were matched with Snuggle Bug, we were informed that Giselle was already qualified for WIC. We learned a bit about the process through her but still didn’t know all the ins and outs that she had to go through or what type of treatment she was subjected to. Of course, she never complained to us. We made a point to offer grocery gift cards so that she could have more than just the “necessities” during her pregnancy. We met her OB more than once and from what I could see he was polite and friendly.

I’m saddened to hear that women on WIC are often treated with such condescending and disdainful attitudes. There’s no reason for that behavior!

And someday we want to be foster parents as well, so we may be experiencing this too. I guess I’d better be aware of these attitudes now.

]]> By: Tamara http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/#comment-826 Tamara Thu, 12 Oct 2006 17:50:30 +0000 http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/#comment-826 As foster parents, we receive WIC for our child, but it was not without long struggles to actually GET an appointment and explain the story time and time again. In the stores, we have had more eye-rolls and dirty looks than we can count. I am sick when I think about how I possibly could have been that person giving "that" look to others in line using WIC vouchers to pay. We are blessed with a good dual-career income, so WIC is a blessing, not a necessity to live - but it should not matter. I often wonder what folks think about high-quality goods in the rest of my cart, or the CDs I buy with cash for the rest of my order at Meijer. It is all astonishing. As foster parents, we receive WIC for our child, but it was not without long struggles to actually GET an appointment and explain the story time and time again. In the stores, we have had more eye-rolls and dirty looks than we can count. I am sick when I think about how I possibly could have been that person giving “that” look to others in line using WIC vouchers to pay. We are blessed with a good dual-career income, so WIC is a blessing, not a necessity to live – but it should not matter. I often wonder what folks think about high-quality goods in the rest of my cart, or the CDs I buy with cash for the rest of my order at Meijer. It is all astonishing.

]]> By: Abebech http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/#comment-821 Abebech Wed, 11 Oct 2006 01:46:55 +0000 http://boomerific.wordpress.com/2006/10/10/sweetie/#comment-821 I think I've already shared this before, but I delivered in a county hospital. Their main clients were high risk pregnancies and anticipated NICU stays and women without insurance. Round-cheeked, ponytailed and ringless (those swollen fingers) I was taken to be both, and to be young and unmarried. I was sweetied and honeyed like nobody's business, and at one point I was quite indignant ("Sweety, do you know who daddy is?" when dh had stepped out for a moment) that all of these assumptions were intertwined, then later realized that my being indignant (or expressing indignation) about it was even a privilege. I think I’ve already shared this before, but I delivered in a county hospital. Their main clients were high risk pregnancies and anticipated NICU stays and women without insurance. Round-cheeked, ponytailed and ringless (those swollen fingers) I was taken to be both, and to be young and unmarried. I was sweetied and honeyed like nobody’s business, and at one point I was quite indignant (“Sweety, do you know who daddy is?” when dh had stepped out for a moment) that all of these assumptions were intertwined, then later realized that my being indignant (or expressing indignation) about it was even a privilege.

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